Too often the tone of Christian teaching on sex is negative, focusing on what we shouldn't do rather than on understanding the purpose of sex. We must first understand the positive before we can make sense of the negatives. The Bible is pro-sex (e.g. 1 Cor. 7:3-5; Proverbs 5:19; Song of Songs 1:2-4; Song of Songs 4:16) and until you see this, and understand why, the negatives won’t make any sense. In a nutshell, the Bible teaches that God created sex as a way for you to say to one person, “I belong to you completely, exclusively, and permanently” (Tim Keller). God commands that we would be delighted by sex within the context of the commitment of marriage (Prov 5:18-19). While some Christians have a prudish attitude toward sex, the Bible never does.
Here’s a couple passages which reveal the Bible’s “pro-sex” stance:
A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
~ Proverbs 5:19
The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
~ 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
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